Dating at times is too complicated for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via these, many singles still find it an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain some satisfying intimate relationship.
Taking obligations for your success or fiasco at relationships is a essential to making a significant transformation leading to success. It is only if you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, for good, what hinders your attempts that you embark on the road to make sure you success.
Consequently, it makes no main difference on how many dates each goes and how many relationships that they attempt to develop: they neglect over and over again, for the simple reason that they just never take time to understand what they do of which harms their attempts.
They therefore resort to finding a single and thousand excuses to help you justify their failures, not the least is: shortage of your energy. Resorting to dating services can be one way to not take responsibility for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my main responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
Self-Awareness might be the only streets you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a partner with whom to develop a very good intimacy. Paradoxically enough, could potentially be the only road which can require your there.
But is it genuinely so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits them from finding the right person? Or simply could it be that even when they meet a potential spouse many singles just do not know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be quite possibly unaware of the many ways in which they will sabotage their attempts by intimacy?
It is as if meeting “the best suited person” stays only a dream. Many singles vacation resort to hiring personal motorcoaches, advisors or dating advisors with the task of corresponding them with the “right” people, convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, look and find.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become alert to a host of factors that drive you to fail in the relationships. Could it be your attitudes towards the other sex? May these be your fears and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these get messages you internalized during a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – messages which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?
Time and again I see singles who, without also knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they just do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
It is at the time you ask yourself these – and other – questions; when you look inwards and observe yourself; and when you develop the Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors get exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think how you approach partners and romantic relationships.
May possibly these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about companions and relationships which disk drive you to expect the difficult (and blame your companions time and again)? Could this be your opinion of reality, being won over that “your way” of thinking, feeling and working on things is always “the best suited way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?